The Biggest Thing Holding You Back in Your Career

I know that sometimes this whole career thing can be a reeeeaaaaal drag. I’ve been there before and I know IT CAN BE EXHAUSTING! 

Achieving your career dreams isn’t easy and it often requires immense amounts of patience, persistence and fortitude.

In fact, it can sometimes feel like you’re struggling an up-hill, never-ending battle to find a good “fit.”

And when you’re in the middle of trying to figure it out, it can be easy to get bogged down in questions like…

Where are the good employers who treat their employees with respect?!! The bosses who communicate expectations appropriately? The organizations that offer meaningful, but sustainable work? The managers who respect that you have a life, and who trust you to do your job? Is that too much to ask!????

No. It isn’t.

It’s not like your career dreams are all unicorns and pots of gold at the end of a rainbow. What you want is NOT TOO MUCH TO ASK.

In fact…

You’re realistic and you don’t fall for non-sense.You know that work isn’t always rosy, and that there are sacrifices to be made. Sometimes it takes hard work and patience to get ahead. 

And you’re smart. Really smart. You are what they call an “A-Player.”

You’ve worked hard to get where you are today. You got the education you were told you needed. Maybe you even went to graduate school thinking that would open more doors. You moved to the city of your dreams. You take online courses and you read blogs. You are constantly trying to better yourself. 

You know how to write your LinkedIn profile, and your resume is in good shape. You don’t need help drafting a cover letter, and you sure do not need ME telling you how to make a good first impression. 

So what do you need help with? Well, that’s the tricky part. 

For all your courage, intelligence and willingness to succeed you have one thing holding you back and it’s not an easy thing to get your head around. 

The one thing holding you back from achieving your dreams is you don’t believe

Yep. You don’t believe that what you want actually exists. And that can be a BIG roadblock to your actually achieving it. 

By this time in your career, you might have said on more than one occasion — “work isn’t supposed to be fun,” “all jobs have their bad days,” and “you can’t really have it all.” 

And do you really think those statements are true? 

I don’t.  

Because, guess what? You get what you think you deserve. 

If you put up with a boss that micro-manages you, and doesn’t trust you to do your job, that’s what you’re going to get.

If you accept a lower salary than you deserve, well, you’re going to make less than you want. 

If you don’t dream and scheme and seize opportunity when it comes your way, then you’re going to miss your chance at happiness (of which there will be many!) when it arrives.

If you don’t believe that it’s possible to earn a good salary, get the flexibility you need to take care of yourself and your family, make the impact you want, feel challenged and stimulated by your work, or be given more responsibilities so that you can grow…

It isn’t going to happen. 

The first step in making your dreams a reality is believing that it’s possible; believing that there is an opportunity out there for you to have the career you want. 


I’m not saying you should quit your job today or starve yourself till you get what you think you deserve, but I am encouraging you to believe in the possibility of an opportunity that fits your dreams. 

And once you believe, you start to see that this is a long game.

This game requires you, “to exist in perpetual creative response to whatever is present” (that quote comes from my teacher, Martha Beck, and author of “Finding Your Own North Star”).

Pay attention, follow your curiosity, say “yes” to opportunity and take risks to realize your full potential.

You may not make your dreams come true overnight, and sacrifices will have to be made, but one day, after years of shooting for the moon, reaching for the stars and not settling for less than what you deserve, you will find that you have arrived.

And, OH MY GOODNESS —> It’s going to feel so good! 

And then what will you do with all that you learned from the reaching and the struggle and the arriving? 

I hope you will be a believer, a mentor and a beacon of hope for others — believe that it is possible for them when they can’t for themselves, like I’m doing for you right now. 

PS: If you want helping believing that what you want is possible, please use this link to schedule some time to talk. I’ll ask you a series of questions to see if my services are a good fit for you.